Fia’s World

On August 26-28, the company that my husband works for held a family gathering. A month ago, when he said that it’s gonna be in Karawaci, I was a bit dissappointed. What? Karawaci?! What kind of excitement can we get from that place? My husband also had no idea. So, with a lot of hesitation I prepared things to go there. Prepared things meant to bring a lot of snacks. Why? Because my husband had planned to take my two nieces with us.

Friday morning. Ameera had a runny nose. So my husband took her to a doctor. He had already planned not to go to his office that day. I did the same. I’d changed my working day into a day before, so I could do the shopping thing. Then we waited for Azka coming home from school. I made sure that she prepared her books for Monday, so she didn’t have to be hurry to do it on Sunday.

At exactly 2 pm, we started our way to Karawaci. I was so sleepy; so were Azka and Ameera. The three of us slept during the journey, left my husband awoke alone. He had to! He was the one who drove. Who else?!

Arrived at 3 pm, my nieces started to explore the place. No sooner I realized that I had to change my opinion about the place called Imperial Aryaduta. It’s a heaven for my two nieces. After changing their clothes into swimsuits, they jumped into the swimming pool right away. Ameera even made friend with a girl named Nisa.

Friday night wasn’t so exciting. We had our dinner together with some people, I mean, my husband’s friends and their families. I was a bit uncomfortable, ‘cause my husband wasn’t with me at that time. He’s seeing ‘his old friend’. He arrived at around 8, but the kids were tired. So we went into our rooms. Talking about our rooms, we got 2 rooms with connecting doors. The kids had twin beds. There’s also a tv set in each room with Disney Channel, so the kids’re amused. They could watch kids program till they shut their eyes.

Saturday, the second day. After having breakfast, the program started. The first was a competition for 3-5 y.o. kids. Guess who the winner was! Ameera! Yup! MY Ameera. She got a prize and she even sang! I was so proud of her. What a promising kid! Azka joined a competition for 6-12 y.o kids. She didn’t win though. Well, the day was still long. There’re some more games and competitions. The day was so hot, I got so tired of the sun. So we went to our rooms as soon as the free time’d begun.

I’d thought we needed more water and milk supply, so we went to Hypermart in Lippo Supermal. We didn’t spend a long time there. Ameera fell asleep in the trolley! We hurried to our rooms, and she continued her dream there!

Dinner time! Ameera had her favorite meal: shrimp! Azka also got what she wanted: squid! For me, I should be satisfied enough with salad. Again, there’re several games. We won a second prize for ‘make-over the daddy’. Subhan, my husband, won a second prize for ’same-sex-couple’ dance. And finally, we won a door prize: a Canon Powershoot A520! Ha…ha…ha… My smile was wider than ever!

My husband was a bit naughty, as he mentioned my name to sing while he’s receiving the prize. I did it anyway, considering that the prize was a camera! Ha…ha…ha…

Monday morning, after having breakfast, the kids and their Papa O jumped into the swimming pool for the last time. I also decided to join them. We played ‘crocodile teasing’ as usual. The hotel provided brunch, so the kids still could have something to eat. Not to mention myself.
At 1 pm, we checked out from the hotel. As usual, Ameera, Azka, and I slept along the way home…

Three days being a real mom was a splendid experience for me. Feeding them, giving their medicine (Azka also had to take some medicine for her teeth), making milk for Ameera, tucking them into bed…. I silently said my grace in my heart. Seeing their faces when they slept, I cherished every single second I’d spent with them…

Back from ‘my dream world’, this week I really absorbed in my duties in the office. Wow, how I miss my job. Why do I say that? Because actually my effective working week this month happens only in this week.

Early this month, I came to work, but my mind wasn’t there. I had this row with my best friend. Well, can’t really say that was a row. Just call it misagreement, then. As friendship is always number one, that matter had settled. The second week, I became a full-time — what so called –homemaker. My maid visited her family. The third week, I joined a seminar, then came Independence Day.

See! How I really miss my beloved desk, my little monkey on top of my monitor, and most of all, my crazy friends who always put me on the ground!

Malem minggu, aye pergi ke kfc…
wakakak…

Iya tuh, lagunya sekarang disesuaikan sama situasi dan kondisi. Berbekal dengan semangat ingin menyenangkan dan mengenyangkan anak, kami pergi bertiga. Ameera, Papa O dan tentunya gue sebagai Wawanya…

Dari luar kami tampak sebagai sebuah keluarga yang lengkap: ayah, ibu dan seorang anak. Tapi kenyataannya Ameera bukanlah anak kandung gue. Dia keponakan gue. Keponakan yang memberikan nama baru buat gue: Wawa (ini bukan berasal dari kata ‘uwa’). Dia berusaha untuk memanggil gue di usianya yang baru sembilan bulan, setelah berhasil menyebut kata ‘mama’ dan ‘papa’. Kakaknya sendiri, Azka, menyebut gue dengan panggilan auntie. Sejak saat itu, dia memanggil gue wawa.

Entah Ameera tau bahwa gue sangat sayang dia, atau karena pengaruh film-film yang dia tonton, terkadang dia memanggil gue: Ibu. Bayangkan! Ketika badan dan pikiran sangat lelah sepulang dari kantor, dia berlari sambil berteriak: ‘Ibu!’ lalu langsung memeluk gue. Semua rasa cape gue seakan menguap begitu saja…

Kalo gue mo jujur, gue sendiri ga tau sampai berapa lama Ameera akan tinggal bersama-sama gue. Setiap saat bisa saja papanya (ade gue) dapet kerja di luar kota dan harus pindah ke sana. Tentunya gue akan sangat kehilangan Ameera. Tapi mendingan gue ga usah mikirin itu ya. Gue nikmati, gue syukuri aja apa yang tengah terjadi. Que sera-sera…

Once again, I made mistake.
Gue berusaha jujur sama sahabat gue. Gue ga bermaksud bikin dia sedih. Ga sama sekali. Tapi gue sedih, karena banyak orang yang takut sama dia. Gue sedih, kalo akhirnya sifat positif dia yang banyak sekali itu ketutup sama satu kekurangannya.

Ketika gue bilang bahwa ada orang yang takut sama dia, gue ga bermaksud bikin dia nangis. Gue juga ga bermaksud supaya dia diem atau bersuara pelan. Karena buat gue, solusinya bukan begitu. Karena sewaktu suaranya pelan, nada suaranya yang meninggi tetep bikin orang bertanya-tanya. Dia kenapa?

Dia sahabat gue. Gue sayang dia. Iya lah. Bukan sebentar gue temenan sama dia. Pasang surut persahabatan udah dilalui dan masih sedang dilalui. Gue juga tau dia sayang gue. Tapi apakah dia tau gue jujur sama dia karena gue sayang dia?

Sekarang gue tau apa yang gue dapetin dari dua hari seminar yang gue ikutin mulai dari kemaren. Banyak bo! Banyak!

Pertama, gue dapet kesempatan untuk belajar metode Appreciative Inquiry dengan 4D-nya yang bakalan bisa gue aplikasiin nantinya. Di metode ini, kelemahan ga disinggung-singgung. Kita emang ngeliat ke belakang, balik ke masa lalu. Ga untuk menyesal, tapi untuk mengambil apa yang terbaik yang pernah terjadi di masa lalu. Jelas ini sesuai dengan prinsip gue yang ga mo nyesel. Trus, dengan adanya partner yang ngebantu kita untuk menjawab pertanyaan, kita ngerasa bahwa kita punya temen. He…he…he… Yang bikin gue teringat bokap gue waktu gue ditanyain tentang pengalaman masa kecil gue yang paling berkesan. Untung partner gue juga nyeritain bokapnya. Jadi, gue ga ngerasa sendiri.

Masih tentang metode ini juga, kita kudu dengerin dan bisa menghargai pendapat orang lain. Belajar jadi a good listener dan memahami orang lain. Ga gampang ngalahin ego. Tapi ketika ego menjadi nomor dua, sebenernya kita bisa melihat lebih jelas.

Kedua, gue jadi punya temen-temen baru. Mulai dari mahasiswa sampe orang-orang yang udah ‘jadi’. Dan di mata gue, semuanya orang-orang hebat. Mereka orang-orang yang punya hati nurani yang peka, yang masih memikirkan nasib sesama, nasib bangsa. Aduh, gue jadi ngerasa ga ada apa-apanya.

Selainnya itu, gue malah ketemu sama temen-temen lama. Ga disangka-sangka aja. Dunia emang kecil ya. Pokoknya seneng banget.

Ketiga, gue jadi tau musti ngapain untuk membantu orang lain. Setiap orang di seminar itu punya gagasan yang hebat. Gue bener-bener pengen bisa berbuat sesuatu. Mungkin ga bakal bisa seperti Butet, atau se heboh Rama. Tapi mudah-mudah gue bisa melakukan sesuatu dengan cara gue sendiri yang sederhana.

Today I join a seminar called Indonesianya Indonesiaku. I arrived there at around 11, was welcomed and treated nicely. Then I was introduced to an interviewer partner. He was such a nice person. We talked, shared answers of questions, got to know each other. He was surely a family man who indeed loved his wife dearly. Then we moved to our group. There was a designer, an architect, a senior stafff of pertamina, two DDI staffs, and two others who went home earlier after lunch.

We had discussions, made conclusion, we even created a fragment of a story to perform. Whew! Such a busy group. I enjoyed every moment together being with them. Although I was still confused about what thing actually I got from that seminar aside of having fun, I made a decision: I’ll come back for the second day, tomorrow. Let’s see…

Hari ini sejak bangun tidur sampe saat gue nulis blog ini, di rumah cuma ada dua orang manusia! Terasa aneh mulanya. Ga ada omelan Arry pada Azka, ga ada celotehan Ameera pada Eha. Yang memang sudah lebih dulu ga ada adalah ‘pembicaraan’ Ana dengan Mayumi. Sepi!

Terkadang di tengah sepi tercipta juga keindahan. Mulai dari bantu membantu ngasih makan piaraan, jalan-jalan ke mal berdua, sampe mandi berdua!! Wakakak Iyalah! Namanya juga suami sendiri. Ternyata, kadang-kadang berdua saja juga menyenangkan ya. Hidup memang musti disyukuri…

Di tengah-tengah kesibukan memasak n ngurusin rumah, hari Rabu 9 Agustus kemaren gue masih sempet nemenin Acil ngeliput Konser Erwin Gutawa Salute to Koes Ploes/Bersaudara di JCC.

EO-nya kayaknya ga ngerti kalo wartawan kudu dapet tempat strategis buat motret. Jadilah kita ditaro di atas, di samping panggung. Rekan-rekan wartawan jelas misuh-misuh. Akhirnya semua sepakat turun ke arena festival. Agak telat juga, karena tempat-tempat strategis udah diambil orang… Tapi untunglah, Acil n gue masih dapet tempat di deket panggung.

Yang nyanyi ada Audi dengan jambulnya, Fithriani, Marshanda dengan kendaraan bebeknya, Ruth Sahanaya, Rio Febrian, Kikan, Baim, Glenn Fredly, Syaharani, Armand, Andi /rif/, dan Jamaica Cafe. Musisinya juga yang top-top dah. Ada Indra Lesmana, Andi Riyanto, Dewa Bujana, Henri Lamiri, Hyper Sax, dan buaaanyaaak lagi.

Gue salut banget sama EG. Ini pertama kalinya gue nonton konser musik yang bener-bener konser musik. Maksud gue, musiknya memang jadi prioritas utama dan dikerjakan dengan amat mendetail. EG emang pinter milih orang. Pemain musiknya, penyanyinya, sampe Paduan suara yang dipilihnya juga top banget. Buat orang-orang yang beli karcis, ga rugi deh bayar mahal. Buat orang yang masuk pake id press kayak gue…waaaahh…untung banget!!! He…he…he…

Wakakak!!!
Udah beberapa hari ini gue ga ke kantor. Bangun sih tetep jam pergi ke kantor. Tapi, instead of going to the bathroom straightly, gue langsung ke… dapur!! Nyiapin sarapan buat suami, lalu langsung mikir…hari ini masak apa ya?
Being a wife, an aunt, a sister, and a mother of 4 pets membuat gue harus mikir makanan apa ya yang cocok buat semua anggota keluarga, termasuk ke-empat peliharaan gue. Udang jelas buat Ameera, tapi ga cocok buat Totto, Mayumi, Akiko dan Kotaro (my pets). Tapi, sebenernya, Mayumi ga masuk dalam pertimbangan. Soalnya, si kucing sombong itu udah punya makanan khusus: ikan selar goreng garing! Azka (my niece) ga bisa makanan yang pedes. Arry ga suka kalo makanan udah diangetin. Untung my beloved hubby dan Eha (my sis-in-law) ga susah makannya.

Selesai ngasih makan piaraan dan masak, kudu liat lagi. Perlu nyuci ga? Nyucinya sih gampang. Tapi ngejemurnya butuh effort juga. Soalnya, ngejemurnya musti di atas yang kudu naek tangga yang selalu bikin deg-degan itu. Ngeberesin dapur, dan nyuci-nyuciin yang kotor udah jelas musti dilakuin. Ngeberesin kamar juga. Setelah semuanya beres…bisa nyantai…sampe sore…

Nyantai? Bisa iya, bisa ga. Tergantung musti pergi lagi ga. Bayar listrik, telpon dan pam termasuk agenda dalam minggu ini. Juga belanja bahan makanan. Anak-anak musti tetep diperhatiin. Ada cemilan sore ga.
Sore nasi musti di masak. Makanan buat anak-anak berekor juga musti disiapin. Ngangetin makanan dan masak makanan baru juga kudu dilakuin. He…he…he…
Kalo suami dah pulang, artinya makanan kudu disiapin. Tapi, kalo cuma nyuci piring kotor dia mau kok. Akhirnya…bisa bener-bener istirahat deh.

Kantor? Lupain dulu deh! Sekali-sekali nikmatin peranan jadi ibu. Cocok ga ya? Apa lebih cocok jadi ibu tiri yang kejam ya? He…he…he…

love, I love…
I love you, love forever
love, I love…
I love you, love forever
I do my best, I do best my best, ooo…
I do my best for you…
I do my best, I do best my best, ooo…
I do my best for you